What Is The Empowered Path?
If you are here, there is a good chance that you’re an empath who’s decided that life could be better. Something feels missing, but you’re not quite sure how to access it yet.
Perhaps you’re tired of being constantly triggered.
Maybe your nervous system feels like it never really switches off.
You’ve probably spent years caring for everyone else and forgotten what it feels like to care for yourself.
That moment when you realise things could be better is important. It’s called Hope.
The Empowered Path is a six-step process I guide empaths through to help them move from fight or flight into a more fulfilled, empowered life with purpose.
What Are The Steps of The Empowered Path?
There are six steps in total, which need to be worked through in order – each one builds on the last. Steps 2,3 & 4 may need to be repeated several times depending on the nature of your trauma. I’ll explain more about that later… Here are the steps:
- Calm the Mind
We begin by calming your nervous system. Through meditation and somatic exercises, you’ll learn to bring your body out of fight-or-flight and into a state where real change becomes possible. - Identify the Patterns
Once your nervous system is calmer, it becomes easier to see the patterns that have been shaping your reactions, relationships and beliefs. I’ll teach you how to listen to your inner critic, name her, make friends with her and then earn her trust. Once you’ve done that, she’ll be quiet enough for the next stage. - Explore the Shadow
In this stage, we look at the parts of yourself that have been hidden, rejected or misunderstood. This is where many of the old emotional triggers begin to loosen their grip. - Reprogram the Mind
Here we begin replacing old beliefs and survival patterns with new ways of thinking, responding and relating to the world. - Reconnect with your Higher Self
As the noise of your nervous system quietens further, many empaths begin to notice a deeper sense of intuition and guidance emerging. - Manifesting the Light
In this stage, we focus on listening to your higher self, discovering your purpose and stepping into your own empowerment.
What Does The Path Look Like In Real Life?
The first step, Calm the Mind, lays the foundation. When your nervous system begins to settle, it becomes much easier to observe your thoughts, emotions and reactions without becoming overwhelmed by them.
I’ll give you a selection of the most common somatic exercises, so that you can give them a try – everyone’s different. Some people need to spend more time calming their minds; others need to calm their bodies. For most empaths, it’s both.
For best results, you should choose one or two favourites and continue to practice them whilst we’re working together. You’ll need them to build a steady foundation for the work.
Healing Happens In Layers
Trauma exists in layers. Each time you find a new pattern, you’re not back at the beginning – you’re finding something new to work on, which will unlock a higher level.
As you start identifying patterns, you’ll notice beliefs, behaviours or emotional reactions that you may not have been fully aware of before. Some of these patterns lead naturally into shadow work, where you explore things that you have suppressed or denied in yourself. Others will turn up as external triggers, which you can investigate and resolve. As those layers come into the light, you can begin reprogramming the beliefs or habits that have been keeping them in place.
Each time you do this, another pattern will appear. A new reaction, a familiar trigger, or an old behaviour that you were unaware of.
This is completely normal. The universe will see that you’re making changes and serve up the next most important pattern for you to work on. It’s frustrating, but important work. Each resolved layer will bring you more freedom, more confidence and more peace. It’s exponential because each layer gets easier.
Some of these moments may trigger your nervous system. Some people give up at this point, but it’s important that you don’t because this is the moment when you’re really close to a breakthrough. The goal is not to fight your reaction or judge yourself for it. Instead, we practise remaining neutral and observing that resistance. This is why continuing somatic practices and meditation is so important.
Neutrality gives you space to observe what is happening without immediately reacting to it. From that calmer place, you can decide how you want to respond rather than falling back into old survival patterns. This is why continuing somatic practices and meditation is so important – they provide you with the ability to respond instead of react to whatever might trigger you.
Naming Your Inner Child
That non-stop voice in your head that’s always saying things you wouldn’t say to your worst enemy is also someone that we need to pay attention to.
Much as we might wish she would just go away, my experience is that she usually becomes louder when she isn’t heard. Over time she can even start trying to get your attention through your body, showing up as tension, chronic pain, or inflammation.
Rather than fighting her, we’re going to learn how to make friends with her.
You’ll give your inner child a name, something simple, childlike and affectionate. I call mine Blodwyn.
This helps you begin to see her as a younger part of yourself who is trying to get your attention. She believes she’s keeping you safe. From her perspective, you’re still the same age you were when those experiences first happened, still in a vulnerable situation.
Back then, the ways she reacted probably did help keep you safe. The problem is that she’s still trying to use the same strategies now.
She isn’t bad, broken, or trying to sabotage you. She’s simply working with old information.
And that’s the important part to understand: she’s the one who’s stuck in the past, not you.
Once she begins to realise that you’re safe now, something surprising often happens. The constant warnings start to quieten, and you begin to experience a little more peace inside your own mind. But you do need to earn her trust – that takes a bit of time. Some of the patterns you’re stuck in are making her very uncomfortable – that’s why we listen, learn and adjust.
As you start to understand the perspective she sees the world from, her behaviour begins to make more sense. She learned those reactions for a reason.
And once she feels heard and understood, something interesting happens.
She starts to calm down.
That’s when the mind becomes quieter, and you begin to experience a little more peace and space inside your own head.
Reconnecting With Your Higher Self
The last step of The Empowered Path is all about your Higher Self. You may not realise that when you were very young, you were connected to her almost every day. As your ego began to form between the ages of two and seven, that connection gradually moved into the background.
That’s one of the reasons people often describe young children as “little angels.” There is something open and present in them that feels very pure. Some children remain more connected to this than others. Trauma can have a significant effect on that connection.
Reestablishing that connection is an important part of awakening and empowerment.
Your Higher Self is the source of intuition, synchronicity and inner guidance. When you learn how to listen, she begins to guide you toward the life and purpose that you incarnated for.
To be clear, not everyone’s purpose is large-scale. Every purpose is equal in importance.
We’ll also name your Higher Mind – I call mine Gwynevere. She’s the light in my life, my guiding star and the reason why I created The Empowered Path. She showed me a vision of thousands of women on ladders, reaching up for help and receiving it, and others reaching down and helping others ascend.
Final Thoughts
This is why I became a trauma coach.
To be one of those women on the ladders and help other empaths recover from trauma.
My hope is that those I help assist others, and the light will spread. When we trust that help is available and become willing to give help in return, something powerful begins to happen.
We rise together.
